You’re the guy… you aren’t supposed to have opinions on this
This was pretty much my statement to D last night as we were chatting about buying new furniture.
I swear, my husband has got to be the only guy I know who has serious opinions on the furniture and other decor in his apartment. This is something that we butt heads about a fair amount, seeing as our personal taste is rather… different
But the argument I always seem to fall back on is, “But… you’re a guy. You’re not supposed to care about home decor!” (ie- You’re the guy! You’re not supposed to disagree with me about home decor!) I’m not usually a proponent of gender stereotypes… apparently unless I think it works in my favor?
But alas, D has home decor opinions (his mother is a nicer, more awesome Martha Stewart afterall, so I guess some of it rubbed off on him).
So, what are we sparring about?
Take a look at the picture above. I see a design blog photo like that and say, “ooh! Yellow doors?! How fresh and awesome. I love it” D looks at that photo and is terrified of all that color.
We want a new chair for the living room. D hates reclining chairs (too many moving parts and tend to break, according to him), wants it to have an ottoman, and tends to like neutral, solid colors. I would love a chair with a fun pattern or a bright color, and I am not opposed to recliners.
We need to buy a bed. I mentioned that I like the look of upholstered headboards. D doesn’t like them. He thinks it should only be wood. “Upholstery gets dingy, and what if it doesn’t match your bedding?”
When we move to a new place, I want to paint a bright accent wall. D wants to stick to neutral earth tones.
So, in summary, me = awesome! fun! color! D = neutral and more neutral, with a dash of earth tone.
But marriage is all about compromise, so I guess I need to tone down my fun patterned chairs and bright accent walls a bit. And, I suppose, be thankful our apartment is not filled with deer heads and covered with plaid.